It also changes the way we think, and makes us conform to others without us even realizing it. That pleasure center in the brain is connected to regions that affects how we feel, how we act, and even the decisions we make. In one study, experimenters were able to trick people to report that they liked really bad music, and even to choose to download unpopular songs, just by making it look like a lot of other people online had offered high ratings. Another study found that people would change their preferred foods as soon as they saw what others had clicked as their favorites.
Still another study showed Instagram pictures of dangerous and immoral behaviors that teens usually avoid. But when the experimenters showed those exact same photos accompanied by many likes, the inhibition center shut down, changing how much each teen was likely to engage in these risky behaviors. This is a big concern, because it means that we may care about popularity a lot more than we should. But those may not be such good ideas, because research also has looked at what happens to the most popular people when they grow up, and the results are a little surprising.
It turns out that there are two different kinds of popularity. One type is based on how many people know of us, are influenced by us, and wish they were us.
About half of all friendships formed in middle school any grade do not last an academic year. By the time a child reaches middle school, friendships have become as important to development as family life. Middle school students crave acceptance from their peers and look to friends to help them navigate through adolescence and everything that comes with it. Their feelings are centred only on themselves. It is very important that kids from age 4—10 are taught to handle their emotions and anger and how their reactions affect others.
That is why we have middle school and high school kids are into bullying, fighting and down right cruel to each other. Highschool is harder than middle school simply because you are learning relatively new concepts while having lots of homework. If you are taking dual credit classes such as an AP class or a local class in your community college, it will be even more difficult than a regular high school class.
Yes it is OK for a freshman to date an 8th grader. Why not? The two of you are only a year apart in age. Some people are popular because they have good people skills, or because they're confident and attract others towards them. But if you don't have these skills, don't worry - you can learn them or fake them.
You might be surprised to learn that some of these outwardly confident people are just as nervous as you are inside - they're just good at faking it! Life isn't a race or a contest, and it doesn't matter if you're not Prom Queen. What matters most is being true to yourself and enjoying life. You don't need to try to equal anyone else in the popularity stakes, so relax and concentrate on building a few meaningful friendships that will enhance your life.
Don't beat yourself up because you don't have tons of friends. What matters is having friends who make you laugh, love you as you are, and are always there to support you. You don't need to count everyone in the school as your friend, or try to equal anyone else. How do you think you can be the best friend possible?
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